People suffering from masked depression frequently conceal their sadness with an external facade intended to hide their emotional torment and pain. What are the reasons and coping methods?
Masked depression was once used to describe a condition in which a person with depression experienced physical symptoms, known as somatic or somatoform symptoms, but may not display the psychological or mood symptoms that are typically associated with depression.
Masked depression symptoms include sadness, a lack of energy and inspiration, and a loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities. While it can feel isolating and intimidating, remember that you are not alone, read on to better understand your emotions, and recognize the coping methods.
Why is depression masked?
Here’s a closer look at why people mask their depression.
- Fear of burdening others
Many people dislike burdening others with their problems, but that is true for people who are accustomed to taking care of others rather than being taken care of. They truly don’t know where to go for assistance, so they keep their problems to themselves.
- Embarrassment
Depression to some people is considered to be a mistake or a sign of weakness. They may even believe that they can “get out of it.” They think they have something wrong when they can’t. As a result, they may be embarrassed with depression because they believe they should be able to deal with it themselves.
- Perfectionism
Perfectionists have frequently mastered the art of appearing flawless. For many, this means masking any pain or problems they are having. As a result, admitting to depression would imply that their lives are less than perfect, which they simply cannot do.
- Denial
Masked depression can be caused by a person’s denial that they are actually depressed. They may believe that as long as they are smiling, they are not depressed. Many people are unwilling to admit that they may have a problem. It’s easier for them to act fine than it is for them to open up about how they truly feel.
- False views of happiness
Happiness is portrayed in an unrealistic way on social media, and in other social structures. As a result, they begin to believe that they are the only ones dealing with mental health issues, which makes them feel more isolated than ever, leading them to hide their difficulties.
Signs and Symptoms
Masked depression symptoms frequently mimic the physical and psychological symptoms of depression.
- Changes in appetite
- Changes in sleep
- Loss of interest in activities
- Social withdrawal
- Chronic pain
- Forced happiness
Individuals with masked depression are likely to appear high-functioning despite these signs and symptoms. They may keep a steady job while also maintaining an active social life. They might even appear upbeat and optimistic. As a result, it is critical to discuss mental health issues openly. This may give them the confidence to express their emotions.
Managing and coping with masked depression
Trying to open up about your feelings can be liberating and even beneficial to your health. If you have difficulty expressing your emotions, you can learn techniques to help you.
Here are four suggestions to help you start feeling better:
- Know your triggers
People, circumstances, and places are frequently associated with strong feelings. If you find yourself emotionally blocked by certain triggers, it may be worth avoiding them whenever possible. Try to notice yourself throughout the day, and identify the situations or people which cause your triggers and anxiety.
- Don’t be ashamed about what you are feeling
Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can help lighten your load. This could be a friend, partner, family member, spiritual advisor, or another important person in your life. If you don’t feel comfortable discussing your mental health with others, having someone cheer you up or distract you can sometimes suffice. Sharing your life events can help you feel more supported and less alone.
- Use positive self-talk
Every one of us has an inner dialogue that is sometimes negative and counterproductive. If you have a negative inner dialogue, healthy self-expression will be difficult. Think about whether the messages in your head are harmful, and if so, work on replacing them with positive ones. Repeat to yourself phrases like “I am able to overcome this”, “My sadness does not define me”, and “I am trying to be better, and that is enough”.
- Create a peace corner
A peace corner is simple to create and can serve as a relaxing retreat in your own home when you need a break. Its goal is to provide a calm environment filled with things that make you happy. Find a space in your home that can be filled with soothing items like plants, stress balls, soft pillows, a yoga mat, candles, and books. You can go there every day or just when you’re having trouble managing your depression symptoms.
Always remember that you are not alone, and you can achieve peace and happiness!